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Six months ago I started doing martial arts because I thought it might help me overcome depression and anxiety. It did. In fact, have become quite passionate about it now because of how much it has helped me become more active and get over my mental issues. My only disappointment is how little women I see practicing it. 

I have a lot of respect for women who practice martial arts. It’s a shame that more don’t want to because most are raised to believe fighting is bad and not something appropriate for women. I believe women actually have an advantage in the art compared to men because most women are more flexible and have better balance compared to the average man; and as far as I can tell, men and women are about equal in their ability to strenthen their core. In kung fu, muscle mass is less important; what is most important is flexibility, speed, core strength, balance, relaxation, and the ability to make smooth movements. Like dancing.

Contrary to the popular belief, fighting is not an important part of kung fu. It is about becoming a better person (physically, mentally and spiritually) and becoming aware of your surroundings. Fighting should not be used unless it is completely necessary.

So women, take a chance and try it. It’s very difficult at first, but you will not regret it in the end. As long as you stay perseverant and enthusiastic, you will succeed. Don’t be like the majority of women I’ve observed in my classes who hit as softly as they can and avoid at all costs doing anything that will hurt even a small amount. Give it all you’ve got. Keep your head up, spine straight, hit hard, put 110% into every move you make and don’t be afraid to get a little bruised and dirty. You cannot improve as a person without a little pain. It’s all worth it in the long run.